tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3223219505227837036.post4922952617387938011..comments2023-10-19T04:16:29.432-06:00Comments on The Dream To Write: RocksJulianne Harveyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01193190579330681002noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3223219505227837036.post-19391304594741319942011-02-17T07:50:44.728-07:002011-02-17T07:50:44.728-07:00It does make sense, but there are "good"...It does make sense, but there are "good" rocks and "bad" rocks. Most of the rocks I carry that I shouldn't are my perceived expectations from other people. I'm terrible at reading in to situations and feeling guilty for things I think others are feeling, without taking their communication at face value. That is what I am trying to stop doing.<br /><br />I agree that there should be some element of carrying each other's burdens, and caring for each other, and I'm slowly figuring out where the line is between healthy and unhealthy in this area. I tend to take on way too much of other people's feelings and pain, and I have to learn to feel what is mine and allow others to own what belongs to them.<br /><br />Thanks for your insightful (and hilarious) comment. It totally makes sense to me, and it's a good counterpoint to my post.Julianne Harveyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01193190579330681002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3223219505227837036.post-34547108631956084932011-02-16T18:57:54.259-07:002011-02-16T18:57:54.259-07:00I actually did this walk once at a training course...I actually did this walk once at a training course when I was still in school. We had to load up a backpack with our issues. For every issue we had to take a rock, label it, and then put it in the pack. Then we went for a hike (years later I would use this exercise when working with teen sex offenders to help them understand the gravity of their crimes, but that is a whole other story). <br /><br />When we got back from the hike we examined our rocks and did some processing. My bag was filled with childhood stuff and other's issues. I've gotten better since then (remembering how freakin' heavy that pack was because of other's issues) but it's still something I need to remind myself of all the time.<br /><br />But, my point is (and good God, I do have one I promise) is that I don't think that it's that bad. I think carrying around other's rocks makes you tired but it also means you are a caring and compassionate person. A good person to be friends with!<br /><br />Does that make sense? Am I rambling?CanadianMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02830797268318076910noreply@blogger.com